I wanted to post this in order to clarify what, to a lot of people, has been a very confusing thing about this blog.
All the information that I have shared on this blog is disclosed for two reasons. The first is that I know there are so many people out there going through really difficult times. Some of the things that happen to people, I would have absolutely no idea how to deal with. However, I believe that there are many things I have been through that other people have either been through or are going through. I don't pretend to have all the answers. Everyone's lives are so different and what works for me may not work for someone else. All I want to do is let people know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and that other people have survived what may be the worst thing to ever happen to someone. My mission for this blog, and for my life, is to help others cope and still fell like the beautiful miracle they are.
The second reason I am so open with what I say on the internet (which seems to be, more or less, getting me into a lot of trouble and making me look like a horrible person) is for a more personal reason. I would rather be an open and honest individual than have people surprised and hurt later because I didn't tell them something. My life is an open book. Every step I have made in life, good or bad, has gotten me to where I am right now. I don't suggest blabbing about yourself all over the internet, but I had to keep far too many secrets as a child to not speak out about my past now. There were several years spent in anxiety over the fact that I had to keep secrets from one parent for another parent.
With all of that being said, I want to talk about where I am hoping to take this blog. I want this to be an inspiration to others and I want more than anything for people to love themselves, have respect for themselves, and to remember that life is exactly what you want it to be. In other words, I want people to find their own "Muchness." In this, I also want this to be a place where you, my darling and incredibly appreciated reader, can feel free to contact me if you need help.
Have a wonderful night!
-Alaska
Thursday, March 28, 2013
Friday, March 8, 2013
Crazy Changes
Hey guys!
Two weeks until we change our style! There will be two posts today: one is this post, in which I will explain the new and exciting changes I am making to the blog and two is going to be a survey for some general feedback. Your thoughts and opinions mean the world to me and I couldn't do any of this without your support.
This summer, I will be starting up an Etsy Shop to gain some extra income and put some of my talents to good use. I am hoping to find a way to reformat the blog so you guys will have first pick of the things I sell. Also, I'm going to start putting DIY projects and recipes up on Fridays. There will be a whole other section for this.
As you can tell from this week, I will now only be putting posts up on M/W/F. This way, I can keep on schedule and hopefully have more to write about. I am so excited for these changes!
I will post a survey later today. I would really love the imput!
Thanks for reading, guys!
-Alaska
Two weeks until we change our style! There will be two posts today: one is this post, in which I will explain the new and exciting changes I am making to the blog and two is going to be a survey for some general feedback. Your thoughts and opinions mean the world to me and I couldn't do any of this without your support.
This summer, I will be starting up an Etsy Shop to gain some extra income and put some of my talents to good use. I am hoping to find a way to reformat the blog so you guys will have first pick of the things I sell. Also, I'm going to start putting DIY projects and recipes up on Fridays. There will be a whole other section for this.
As you can tell from this week, I will now only be putting posts up on M/W/F. This way, I can keep on schedule and hopefully have more to write about. I am so excited for these changes!
I will post a survey later today. I would really love the imput!
Thanks for reading, guys!
-Alaska
Wednesday, March 6, 2013
Forget Regret
Hey guys!
Today is about the past and regrets. Sometimes we do things that we aren't at all proud of. So what do you do in order to move past all the things that you've done?
Well, firstly, I want you to realize that, barring a sexy man in a bright blue box, you most likely don't have the option of time travel. You can't change past actions and words, you can just learn from your experiences and look towards a better future. The past is like concrete, you can bang your head against it, but it won't fix it's existence and it won't make you feel any better.
Apologize for the things that have happened. If it'll make you feel better, if it'll help you change, then apologize. However, there is only so long you can apologize for before it becomes moot and stagnant. If someone continuously makes you feel bad for it, then you need to talk to that person and either get them to agree to cease or just leave them behind. You are still a human and, especially if you've really changed, you shouldn't have to spend the rest of your life dealing with a guilt trip.
Forgive yourself. Rape and murder are the only two scenarios in which you shouldn't forgive yourself. If you haven't done either of these, then you need to realize that what happened is not fixable and that beating yourself up for it isn't going to make anything right. Find it in yourself to forgive yourself. Remember, you're the one who will be with you for the rest of your life. Learning to love and forgive yourself is the best thing you can do.
The past is gone. The present is now. Use the present. Enjoy life.
-Alaska
Today is about the past and regrets. Sometimes we do things that we aren't at all proud of. So what do you do in order to move past all the things that you've done?
Well, firstly, I want you to realize that, barring a sexy man in a bright blue box, you most likely don't have the option of time travel. You can't change past actions and words, you can just learn from your experiences and look towards a better future. The past is like concrete, you can bang your head against it, but it won't fix it's existence and it won't make you feel any better.
Apologize for the things that have happened. If it'll make you feel better, if it'll help you change, then apologize. However, there is only so long you can apologize for before it becomes moot and stagnant. If someone continuously makes you feel bad for it, then you need to talk to that person and either get them to agree to cease or just leave them behind. You are still a human and, especially if you've really changed, you shouldn't have to spend the rest of your life dealing with a guilt trip.
Forgive yourself. Rape and murder are the only two scenarios in which you shouldn't forgive yourself. If you haven't done either of these, then you need to realize that what happened is not fixable and that beating yourself up for it isn't going to make anything right. Find it in yourself to forgive yourself. Remember, you're the one who will be with you for the rest of your life. Learning to love and forgive yourself is the best thing you can do.
The past is gone. The present is now. Use the present. Enjoy life.
-Alaska
Monday, March 4, 2013
Under Pressure
Few times in life are you presented with an opportunity to shine or sink. I, currently, am going through several of them. Obviously, life doesn't give you one problem at a time: it gives you a whole shit pile to deal with at once. While this is a public post, this is mainly me itemizing what has to be done in order to shine.
1. Prioritize the things you have to deal with. Let's face it, only so many things can be accomplished at once. Sometimes, things that aren't as important or as pressing need to fall by the wayside. Chances are, the problem will still be there when you come back to it. Make sure that when you're writing out your list of priorities, you also write the less important and pressing matters so you can come back to them before they become the top on the chart.
2. Make a list of things you can do to fix these problems. Make sure that you only focus on your top 3-5. Make necessary appointments and tie all the loose ends. Taking the first steps in solving your issues always makes you motivated.
3. Keep motivated! If you're at a dead end with one issue (i.e. you have made an appointment for a couple weeks out), work on something else. If you're at a dead end with your top 10, utilize this time to work on hobbies or smaller projects. The most important part is to not stop focusing on fixing your issues.
4. Be patient. Rome wasn't built in a day and no one has a magical wand to speed up time and fix every problem. If you feel like something is taking too long, make some inquiries. Above all, don't use this downtime to blame yourself or stress out about the issue. When my friend has a panic attack, I always ask him if there is anything that he or I can do about the situation at the current moment. Most of the time, it's a big fat "no". So relax and realize that the world will most likely not come to an end while things are getting situated.
5. Don't procrastinate. Make sure that these problems do get solved, so you don't have bigger issues.
6. Enjoy the journey. This will teach you something.
As always, if you need help with prioritizing or even need someone to vent to, don't hesitate to email me. I'd be more than happy to help!
Alyeskanstars@gmail.com
Rock On, Guys! I know you can do this!
-Alaska
1. Prioritize the things you have to deal with. Let's face it, only so many things can be accomplished at once. Sometimes, things that aren't as important or as pressing need to fall by the wayside. Chances are, the problem will still be there when you come back to it. Make sure that when you're writing out your list of priorities, you also write the less important and pressing matters so you can come back to them before they become the top on the chart.
2. Make a list of things you can do to fix these problems. Make sure that you only focus on your top 3-5. Make necessary appointments and tie all the loose ends. Taking the first steps in solving your issues always makes you motivated.
3. Keep motivated! If you're at a dead end with one issue (i.e. you have made an appointment for a couple weeks out), work on something else. If you're at a dead end with your top 10, utilize this time to work on hobbies or smaller projects. The most important part is to not stop focusing on fixing your issues.
4. Be patient. Rome wasn't built in a day and no one has a magical wand to speed up time and fix every problem. If you feel like something is taking too long, make some inquiries. Above all, don't use this downtime to blame yourself or stress out about the issue. When my friend has a panic attack, I always ask him if there is anything that he or I can do about the situation at the current moment. Most of the time, it's a big fat "no". So relax and realize that the world will most likely not come to an end while things are getting situated.
5. Don't procrastinate. Make sure that these problems do get solved, so you don't have bigger issues.
6. Enjoy the journey. This will teach you something.
As always, if you need help with prioritizing or even need someone to vent to, don't hesitate to email me. I'd be more than happy to help!
Alyeskanstars@gmail.com
Rock On, Guys! I know you can do this!
-Alaska
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