Hey guys!
Two weeks until we change our style! There will be two posts today: one is this post, in which I will explain the new and exciting changes I am making to the blog and two is going to be a survey for some general feedback. Your thoughts and opinions mean the world to me and I couldn't do any of this without your support.
This summer, I will be starting up an Etsy Shop to gain some extra income and put some of my talents to good use. I am hoping to find a way to reformat the blog so you guys will have first pick of the things I sell. Also, I'm going to start putting DIY projects and recipes up on Fridays. There will be a whole other section for this.
As you can tell from this week, I will now only be putting posts up on M/W/F. This way, I can keep on schedule and hopefully have more to write about. I am so excited for these changes!
I will post a survey later today. I would really love the imput!
Thanks for reading, guys!
-Alaska
Friday, March 8, 2013
Wednesday, March 6, 2013
Forget Regret
Hey guys!
Today is about the past and regrets. Sometimes we do things that we aren't at all proud of. So what do you do in order to move past all the things that you've done?
Well, firstly, I want you to realize that, barring a sexy man in a bright blue box, you most likely don't have the option of time travel. You can't change past actions and words, you can just learn from your experiences and look towards a better future. The past is like concrete, you can bang your head against it, but it won't fix it's existence and it won't make you feel any better.
Apologize for the things that have happened. If it'll make you feel better, if it'll help you change, then apologize. However, there is only so long you can apologize for before it becomes moot and stagnant. If someone continuously makes you feel bad for it, then you need to talk to that person and either get them to agree to cease or just leave them behind. You are still a human and, especially if you've really changed, you shouldn't have to spend the rest of your life dealing with a guilt trip.
Forgive yourself. Rape and murder are the only two scenarios in which you shouldn't forgive yourself. If you haven't done either of these, then you need to realize that what happened is not fixable and that beating yourself up for it isn't going to make anything right. Find it in yourself to forgive yourself. Remember, you're the one who will be with you for the rest of your life. Learning to love and forgive yourself is the best thing you can do.
The past is gone. The present is now. Use the present. Enjoy life.
-Alaska
Today is about the past and regrets. Sometimes we do things that we aren't at all proud of. So what do you do in order to move past all the things that you've done?
Well, firstly, I want you to realize that, barring a sexy man in a bright blue box, you most likely don't have the option of time travel. You can't change past actions and words, you can just learn from your experiences and look towards a better future. The past is like concrete, you can bang your head against it, but it won't fix it's existence and it won't make you feel any better.
Apologize for the things that have happened. If it'll make you feel better, if it'll help you change, then apologize. However, there is only so long you can apologize for before it becomes moot and stagnant. If someone continuously makes you feel bad for it, then you need to talk to that person and either get them to agree to cease or just leave them behind. You are still a human and, especially if you've really changed, you shouldn't have to spend the rest of your life dealing with a guilt trip.
Forgive yourself. Rape and murder are the only two scenarios in which you shouldn't forgive yourself. If you haven't done either of these, then you need to realize that what happened is not fixable and that beating yourself up for it isn't going to make anything right. Find it in yourself to forgive yourself. Remember, you're the one who will be with you for the rest of your life. Learning to love and forgive yourself is the best thing you can do.
The past is gone. The present is now. Use the present. Enjoy life.
-Alaska
Monday, March 4, 2013
Under Pressure
Few times in life are you presented with an opportunity to shine or sink. I, currently, am going through several of them. Obviously, life doesn't give you one problem at a time: it gives you a whole shit pile to deal with at once. While this is a public post, this is mainly me itemizing what has to be done in order to shine.
1. Prioritize the things you have to deal with. Let's face it, only so many things can be accomplished at once. Sometimes, things that aren't as important or as pressing need to fall by the wayside. Chances are, the problem will still be there when you come back to it. Make sure that when you're writing out your list of priorities, you also write the less important and pressing matters so you can come back to them before they become the top on the chart.
2. Make a list of things you can do to fix these problems. Make sure that you only focus on your top 3-5. Make necessary appointments and tie all the loose ends. Taking the first steps in solving your issues always makes you motivated.
3. Keep motivated! If you're at a dead end with one issue (i.e. you have made an appointment for a couple weeks out), work on something else. If you're at a dead end with your top 10, utilize this time to work on hobbies or smaller projects. The most important part is to not stop focusing on fixing your issues.
4. Be patient. Rome wasn't built in a day and no one has a magical wand to speed up time and fix every problem. If you feel like something is taking too long, make some inquiries. Above all, don't use this downtime to blame yourself or stress out about the issue. When my friend has a panic attack, I always ask him if there is anything that he or I can do about the situation at the current moment. Most of the time, it's a big fat "no". So relax and realize that the world will most likely not come to an end while things are getting situated.
5. Don't procrastinate. Make sure that these problems do get solved, so you don't have bigger issues.
6. Enjoy the journey. This will teach you something.
As always, if you need help with prioritizing or even need someone to vent to, don't hesitate to email me. I'd be more than happy to help!
Alyeskanstars@gmail.com
Rock On, Guys! I know you can do this!
-Alaska
1. Prioritize the things you have to deal with. Let's face it, only so many things can be accomplished at once. Sometimes, things that aren't as important or as pressing need to fall by the wayside. Chances are, the problem will still be there when you come back to it. Make sure that when you're writing out your list of priorities, you also write the less important and pressing matters so you can come back to them before they become the top on the chart.
2. Make a list of things you can do to fix these problems. Make sure that you only focus on your top 3-5. Make necessary appointments and tie all the loose ends. Taking the first steps in solving your issues always makes you motivated.
3. Keep motivated! If you're at a dead end with one issue (i.e. you have made an appointment for a couple weeks out), work on something else. If you're at a dead end with your top 10, utilize this time to work on hobbies or smaller projects. The most important part is to not stop focusing on fixing your issues.
4. Be patient. Rome wasn't built in a day and no one has a magical wand to speed up time and fix every problem. If you feel like something is taking too long, make some inquiries. Above all, don't use this downtime to blame yourself or stress out about the issue. When my friend has a panic attack, I always ask him if there is anything that he or I can do about the situation at the current moment. Most of the time, it's a big fat "no". So relax and realize that the world will most likely not come to an end while things are getting situated.
5. Don't procrastinate. Make sure that these problems do get solved, so you don't have bigger issues.
6. Enjoy the journey. This will teach you something.
As always, if you need help with prioritizing or even need someone to vent to, don't hesitate to email me. I'd be more than happy to help!
Alyeskanstars@gmail.com
Rock On, Guys! I know you can do this!
-Alaska
Wednesday, February 20, 2013
My Lovely Astronaut and The Love You Deserve
To die by your side is such a heavenly way to die...
-There Is a Light...by the Smiths
I noticed (and by I, I mean my lovely boyfriend) that I have failed to mention the results of my first blog post ever. For those of you who haven't read it, it's The Love You Deserve. When I wrote this post, I never realized how this simple post would effect me. Though it has certainly not been easy, I have found the strength to stop "slutting it up" and hating myself.
Last Summer, I alienated people--even my closest friends--in a huge way. I thought that, in order to love myself, I had to be on my own and not accepting of help. As my model for self-love has matured, so has my life style.
It feels like it happened in a flash. He's one of those people who comes into your life and suddenly you can't remember what life was like before him. He's still convinced I was attracted to his friend first, but how could I with that incandescent smile and the way one of his eyes has the smallest bit of bronze?
I met him at orientation and though he says he remembers me, I know there is no way that he does. He was like me. He had just broken up with someone poisonous and had taken on the task of complete and total self destruction. Why this is important is because he was hungover the first time we met. I never could have guessed. He suggested radio and I was immediately hooked. Every opportunity I had to talk to him, I did so.
Ted forced me to go to the radio orientation and he was there, My (soon-to-be) Lovely Astronaut. My hair was in a bun, humidity clinging to every wave. I threw on a sundress I had bought for my aunt's wedding and some sandals. Needless to say, I had woken up and thrown on the first thing I saw. It didn't matter. He was impressed. In my very old-me style, I played the cat and mouse game using my eyes.
That weekend, his friend asked me to go to a comedy club with them. I accepted, but was slightly creeped out by his friend. They picked me up and off we went. The club was fantastic--just a fairly small room under the ground. Popcorn was placed on the tables and the low red lights hit everything just right. MLA (My Lovely Astronaut) complained he would be made fun of, so I switched spots with him. Needless to say, he was heckled the rest of the evening. I asked if anyone wanted to go out to smoke with me. He said yes.
From then on, we hung out nearly every day. His kindness and gentle nature made me terrified and my casual view of the world confused him. Finally, he texted me saying "I'm drunk. Ask me anything, I'm an open book." So I did it. I asked him what he thought of me. Obviously, he liked me. I liked him too, but I knew I wasn't good enough for him. This was the point of TLYD. You're only not good enough for someone if you think you aren't.
I am so glad I chose to believe I am good enough for him. Our romance has taken my breath away. Once, we walked back to my dorm room after he told me a huge secret and we sat listening to Samson by Regina Spektor, half lit by the soft glow of the stringed lights. Another time, we sat in my brother's car and listened to music, smoking a cigarette together and drinking a cup of coffee. I thought I had known romance before, but that was me trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. Real romance isn't forced, isn't hard to believe in. Real love is when you trust the other person to love you just as much as you love them.
Real love is The Love You Deserve. And for knowing that, I must say thank you to My Lovely Astronaut. Thank you, Zachary Virgil Gray. I love you.
-Alaska
-There Is a Light...by the Smiths
I noticed (and by I, I mean my lovely boyfriend) that I have failed to mention the results of my first blog post ever. For those of you who haven't read it, it's The Love You Deserve. When I wrote this post, I never realized how this simple post would effect me. Though it has certainly not been easy, I have found the strength to stop "slutting it up" and hating myself.
Last Summer, I alienated people--even my closest friends--in a huge way. I thought that, in order to love myself, I had to be on my own and not accepting of help. As my model for self-love has matured, so has my life style.
It feels like it happened in a flash. He's one of those people who comes into your life and suddenly you can't remember what life was like before him. He's still convinced I was attracted to his friend first, but how could I with that incandescent smile and the way one of his eyes has the smallest bit of bronze?
I met him at orientation and though he says he remembers me, I know there is no way that he does. He was like me. He had just broken up with someone poisonous and had taken on the task of complete and total self destruction. Why this is important is because he was hungover the first time we met. I never could have guessed. He suggested radio and I was immediately hooked. Every opportunity I had to talk to him, I did so.
Ted forced me to go to the radio orientation and he was there, My (soon-to-be) Lovely Astronaut. My hair was in a bun, humidity clinging to every wave. I threw on a sundress I had bought for my aunt's wedding and some sandals. Needless to say, I had woken up and thrown on the first thing I saw. It didn't matter. He was impressed. In my very old-me style, I played the cat and mouse game using my eyes.
That weekend, his friend asked me to go to a comedy club with them. I accepted, but was slightly creeped out by his friend. They picked me up and off we went. The club was fantastic--just a fairly small room under the ground. Popcorn was placed on the tables and the low red lights hit everything just right. MLA (My Lovely Astronaut) complained he would be made fun of, so I switched spots with him. Needless to say, he was heckled the rest of the evening. I asked if anyone wanted to go out to smoke with me. He said yes.
From then on, we hung out nearly every day. His kindness and gentle nature made me terrified and my casual view of the world confused him. Finally, he texted me saying "I'm drunk. Ask me anything, I'm an open book." So I did it. I asked him what he thought of me. Obviously, he liked me. I liked him too, but I knew I wasn't good enough for him. This was the point of TLYD. You're only not good enough for someone if you think you aren't.
I am so glad I chose to believe I am good enough for him. Our romance has taken my breath away. Once, we walked back to my dorm room after he told me a huge secret and we sat listening to Samson by Regina Spektor, half lit by the soft glow of the stringed lights. Another time, we sat in my brother's car and listened to music, smoking a cigarette together and drinking a cup of coffee. I thought I had known romance before, but that was me trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. Real romance isn't forced, isn't hard to believe in. Real love is when you trust the other person to love you just as much as you love them.
Real love is The Love You Deserve. And for knowing that, I must say thank you to My Lovely Astronaut. Thank you, Zachary Virgil Gray. I love you.
-Alaska
Tuesday, February 12, 2013
Radio and Why I Am So Lazy!
I bet you guys have been missing me a lot. I'm very very sorry about not writing anything recently. We are currently in the process of a complete remodel of my blog. This will include reorganization and a new logo! Needless to say, I can't wait for these changes! In the mean time, I'll tell you guys a little bit about what is going on with me.
I have been struggling with some family issues lately and I found out some very exciting and life-changing news. I will let you all know about these things as soon as possible, but suffice it to say that, as of right now, I don't have the time I would like to write my blog.
If you are missing my wisdom and knowledge so much that you just can't stand it, I will let you guys in on a secret. Did you know that I am a DJ at my college's radio station? I have two shows: Alyeskan Stars (Thursday Nights 8-10 PM MST) and Bear Naked Comedy (Friday Nights 6-7 PM MST). While Alyeskan Stars is more music oriented (you all know how much I love my music), Bear Naked Comedy is cool because I get to interview comedians. Come listen on www.uncradio.com and "like" the Facebook pages: (AS) www.facebook.com/alyeskanstars and (BNC) www.facebook.com/uncrcomedy.
I really appreciate your support and can't wait for the relaunch and to get back into the groove!
I love you ALL!
-Alaska Miller
I have been struggling with some family issues lately and I found out some very exciting and life-changing news. I will let you all know about these things as soon as possible, but suffice it to say that, as of right now, I don't have the time I would like to write my blog.
If you are missing my wisdom and knowledge so much that you just can't stand it, I will let you guys in on a secret. Did you know that I am a DJ at my college's radio station? I have two shows: Alyeskan Stars (Thursday Nights 8-10 PM MST) and Bear Naked Comedy (Friday Nights 6-7 PM MST). While Alyeskan Stars is more music oriented (you all know how much I love my music), Bear Naked Comedy is cool because I get to interview comedians. Come listen on www.uncradio.com and "like" the Facebook pages: (AS) www.facebook.com/alyeskanstars and (BNC) www.facebook.com/uncrcomedy.
I really appreciate your support and can't wait for the relaunch and to get back into the groove!
I love you ALL!
-Alaska Miller
Wednesday, January 16, 2013
Change Your Views or Die Trying
Hey guys!
Sometimes, you can't change the things going on in your life. All you can change is the way you choose to view these things (so cliche, I know).
For example, my best friend with the depression. Is there anything I can really do to change it (aside from being there for him and hoping for the best)? No, not really. This has weighed heavy on my heart for so damn long it feels that it feels like I have to bury my heart in the snow just to cool it off. What I have had to do is change my own life views to become a more positive influence. At least he's still here.
So, if you need to change your outlook on the situation, start inward. Remain calm and focus on the bright side. Everything has a bright side, regardless of whether or not you see it. Even if you are faced with a death, there are benefits to it. Maybe it was a grandmother who had been battling cancer. At least they're no longer in pain. If you ever need a bright side of a situation, please feel free to comment, message on Facebook, or send an email. I'm never too busy or "good" to have a good chat and try to help someone going through a hard time.
I love all of you and will write more tomorrow,
Alaska
Tuesday, January 15, 2013
So. Much. Stress.
Hey guys!
Sorry I didn't post this earlier today.
I want to talk about stress (well, not really, but who ever does?)! Guys, stress is a very natural part of life that we all experience as we get older. The unhealthy part of stress is how we choose to deal with it. Some people deal with it by drinking or having sex. Some of us (mainly me) smoke until our lungs resemble a chimney. While I am the poster child for stressing way too much, I have found some great ways to manage it.
Firstly, DON'T OVER THINK ANYTHING! As my gorgeous boyfriend states: "over thinking does nothing to get it done, does nothing to fix the issue. Once you are able to pull yourself out emotionally, you are able to think logically and find a solution." (If you want to read more of Zach's writing, click this link --->more amazing blogging)
Secondly, find something to help you assemble your thoughts. Start a blog, pick up crochet or the ukulele, start doing yoga. Find a happy place for just you that no one can take away. Let this be a little place where you can think logically and let the worries melt away.
Thirdly, find a solution. This ties into the previous blog posts. If something is stressing you out, it's time to make a change. Again, think about it logically. For example, yeah I would love to take Intro to Creative Writing this semester. I'd also like to get at least a little sleep (it's at 8 am). What did I do? I dropped the class. I can take it next semester.
Fourthly (and finally), believe in yourself. If you think you're going to fail, then guess what sunshine? You will fail. But if you believe in your ability to make it though whatever it is stressing you out, then you will absolutely succeed.
Again, sorry it took so long and sorry it was so short. Needless to say it was a busy, busy day and I don't foresee the busy to cease.
Still, I am unchanging and most fondly yours,
-Alaska
Sorry I didn't post this earlier today.
I want to talk about stress (well, not really, but who ever does?)! Guys, stress is a very natural part of life that we all experience as we get older. The unhealthy part of stress is how we choose to deal with it. Some people deal with it by drinking or having sex. Some of us (mainly me) smoke until our lungs resemble a chimney. While I am the poster child for stressing way too much, I have found some great ways to manage it.
Firstly, DON'T OVER THINK ANYTHING! As my gorgeous boyfriend states: "over thinking does nothing to get it done, does nothing to fix the issue. Once you are able to pull yourself out emotionally, you are able to think logically and find a solution." (If you want to read more of Zach's writing, click this link --->more amazing blogging)
Secondly, find something to help you assemble your thoughts. Start a blog, pick up crochet or the ukulele, start doing yoga. Find a happy place for just you that no one can take away. Let this be a little place where you can think logically and let the worries melt away.
Thirdly, find a solution. This ties into the previous blog posts. If something is stressing you out, it's time to make a change. Again, think about it logically. For example, yeah I would love to take Intro to Creative Writing this semester. I'd also like to get at least a little sleep (it's at 8 am). What did I do? I dropped the class. I can take it next semester.
Fourthly (and finally), believe in yourself. If you think you're going to fail, then guess what sunshine? You will fail. But if you believe in your ability to make it though whatever it is stressing you out, then you will absolutely succeed.
Again, sorry it took so long and sorry it was so short. Needless to say it was a busy, busy day and I don't foresee the busy to cease.
Still, I am unchanging and most fondly yours,
-Alaska
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